Wouldn’t life be so much better if people were always nice to one another

Written on 25th Apr 2014 by Sylvia Lowery

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I have just read a mums comment on Facebook about how a woman was tutting as she sat on the floor with her son because he was in the middle of a meltdown. I have faced similar experiences and I am not bitter or even angry. I just feel sad, why do we have to be so unkind to one another.

When Alex was four I had to take his older siblings to swimming lessons. The problem was that Alex decided he wanted to join them in the pool. I had to stop him from getting into the pool but Alex was having a massive meltdown and he seemed to have superhuman strength. I was six months pregnant and Alex was kicking me in the stomach. I was so afraid and ashamed suddenly a cleaning lady came along and she guided me into a quiet room and she gave me sympathy and kindness. She didn’t judge me as a bad mother even though I felt I must be a bad mother to have a child who I couldn’t control. Her kindness gave me hope, I have never seen her since then. I have even wondered if she was an angel sent to help me.

The question is do you want to be the tutting woman or the kind woman whose kindness is never forgotten. It’s time we stopped making judgements we know nothing about. If someone says they are in pain believe them even if they don’t look like they are in pain. If someone is anxious don’t tell them to pull their sock up. Your unkindness adds to their pain.

Love believes all things it doesn’t put bad motives on people, it thinks of others the best and is kind. 

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