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10 things you should never say to NT’s

Written on 9th Oct 2013 by Alex Lowery

Non autistic people get upset for reasons I can’t work out. Here are some examples that I have since learnt will cause upset. Here is a mini guide to avoid the pitfalls.

1. Look just because your rabbit has just died. It doesn’t make her the best rabbit in the world. Everyone thinks that about their pet.


2. That new haircut doesn’t suit you.

3. That DVD I got you was bought for my brother but he didn’t want it.

4. Just think you are nearer 50 than 40 now.

5. You’re starting to get a lot of grey hairs lately.

6. I hate the way you’ve dyed your hair.

7. You’ve put on a lot of weight recently.

8. Wow! You’ve got a lot of Acne!

9. I didn’t like the present you got me at all!

10. I can see that you’re starting to get wrinkles.


Autism mum asked her son what these meant. You can read his responses here.

5 thoughts on “10 things you should never say to NT’s

  1. donna says:

    How many time have you thought about saying thing like that and stopped yourself?

    • Alex Lowery says:

      I’m not sure. I’ve never counted, but quite a lot of times. But some of them, I have even said, not knowing that they’d offend someone.

  2. Sylvia Lowery says:

    You have said a lot of them to me Alex πŸ™‚ The rabbit comment you said to Alice.

  3. Elizabeth says:

    These are wonderful! I am going to talk to my son about them today and discuss why he should not say these and other like things. Thank you! πŸ™‚

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